The Moore American

February 12, 2014

Grandmother feels helpless

The Moore American

MOORE — Q: Since my daughter’s divorce, my fifth grade grandchild has displayed horrible anger issues. It is almost as if he goes in to a trance when he gets angry. As grandparents, what can we do to help?

— Helpless

Dear Helpless,

As sad as it is when parents get divorced, children suffer because they often get placed in the middle. Continue to show love and support to your grandson. Don’t be afraid to have a chat with him about why he is angry, but it’s not a good idea to do this during the time of an episode. Try to be a calming presence. Professional counseling is definitely needed. Adults can benefit from this type of counseling, as well. A place to start is with the health insurance provider to see what is covered as well as a list of available professional help.

Dear Readers,

February is typically the month for schools to pre-enroll for the next school year. Have a conversation with your student as soon as possible about upcoming enrollment. Don’t let them use “I don’t know” or “I wasn’t told” as an excuse. We can’t stress enough the importance of you knowing what your own kids need to take. Of course the core classes of English and math, for example, are fairly set to meet graduation requirements. Elective courses are just as important, especially if your child has been accepted to Oklahoma’s Promise or is an NCAA-eligible athlete. It’s never a bad idea to choose electives that are not only of interest to your student but also those that will help with future endeavors. Schools will provide either a course catalog or an on-line course guide. It is your responsibility to look through this with your own kids to ensure everything is correct. Place the reminder that it isn’t a good idea to sign up for a class because of a certain teacher or a friend has encouraged it. Anything can happen — the teacher can move, sections can fill up and friends aren’t together, etc. School personnel can only do so much when they have hundreds of students to track. Believe it or not, they are human, and mistakes can inadvertently be made. Please take the time to look at all the materials that are brought home, and also return them in a timely manner.

Send questions to Jeannie and Sally are certified school counselors with 49 years combined educational experience. Jeannie has two children, Sally three. The responses presented don’t necessarily represent the views of any certain school district.