Often times phrases such as “This is your decision, but realize we are not going to help you make poor decisions, you are responsible for the consequences” may get him to realize he is only hurting himself. Many kids display anger toward their parents for making them follow rules.
They feel that if they cause enough trouble, their parents will give in to their wishes. This should be the furthest from the truth.
Stick by your rules. You are the boss. Once these kids realize their ploy to make you miserable isn’t working, they quickly realize it is them that is harmed and change their behavior.
We can honestly tell you that the majority of kids secretly want boundaries, structure and discipline. It is validation to them that someone actually cares. Of course they are going to balk at it — that’s just a part of spreading their independent wings. They may not truly see how good they had it until they are on their own and having to make all the decisions — but they will get it — and they will come back and say thank you.
Send questions to questions.classact@gmail .com. Jeannie and Sally are certified school counselors with 49 years combined educational experience. Jeannie has two children, Sally three. The responses presented don’t necessarily represent the views of any certain school district.