Helping others — showing love and kindness — is a great way to shift the focus away from your own troubles. Even caring for a pet is a great way to achieve this.
As hard as a breakup is at any time in life, it can be used as a positive experience by reflecting and growing as a person. There will be other relationships.
Encourage your son to think about what he would do differently. Make sure he knows you support him and are there to listen whenever he needs to talk.
Q: Some of my oldest daughter’s new junior high friends appear to be a little more socially advanced. I’m concerned about the temptations she may soon be facing. As a parent, how should I approach her about this?
— Barbara, Oklahoma City
A: We have seen parents try many different ways to prevent their children from making horrible mistakes concerning dangerous behaviors. We believe having frequent conversations with your daughter about right and wrong and why certain behaviors are dangerous is a great place to start.
It’s also beneficial to share with your daughter what your hopes and expectations for her are. Being involved in the community, and especially at her school, helps you to get to know other parents and “stay in the loop.”
As always, we encourage you to be a presence in her life as long as she is living in your home. Structure and discipline are essential, even though your kids may act otherwise. This gives them their security.