MOORE — We found it interesting that these came in close to the same time.
Q. I am 16 and want to get a job so I can have my own spending money. My parents want me to wait. They say I will work for the rest of my life, and they are able to provide for me. How can I get them to understand?
We applaud you for wanting to take the responsibility of getting a job. You could possibly make a list of the reasons you want to work, making sure to put things on that list such as experience with others, money management, knowledge, the feeling of satisfaction one gets from paying for something of their own, etc. With your list, try to sit down and explain these reasons. It should help. It also would probably be better received if your job didn’t interfere with your family’s life. For example, if your parents go to work in the mornings and you come in late at night, this is not going to be easy on them. Perhaps a compromise could be that you would work only part time throughout the summer, and you can all revisit the situation just prior to school starting next year. There are so many positive aspects to working in the summer. We wish you luck.
Q. I am about to turn 16 and my parents are demanding that I get a job to pay for gas and upkeep on my car. I really don’t think it is fair that I am going to have to work all summer when my friends are hanging out. How can I convince them to not make me work?
No luck here, Ben. Stop acting like a spoiled, entitled kid with your hand out, and get out there and find a job. Why do you think your parents should have to work to give you money to hang out with your friends? We think they should make you pay for the car, the insurance, the gas and the tires. Children aren’t cheap, and especially as they get older, their needs and luxuries are much more expensive. To help you understand this, make a list of everything your parents do provide for you. Start with loving you enough to teach you responsibility to take care of yourself — then move to a roof over your head, clothes to wear, food to eat, more than likely a cell phone to use, and probably almost everything else you want. Sixteen, the magic number when you want to act like an adult and be given adult freedoms but don’t want any of the responsibilities.