MOORE — Our seventh grade son has just started showing an interest in reading. He has hated it in the past. We are excited and want to help him continue on this path by suggesting books for him to read over the summer. Can you suggest any resources that would make us sound like we know what we are talking about?
Ted and Freida, Norman
Dear Ted and Freida,
Good for him. Reading is something that will help him in every aspect of life. We will tell you that he has to pick what he wants to read. It is great to offer suggestions, but ultimately kids often see this as something their parents are making them do… and we know how well that goes over. Have him talk to the best resource we know — his school librarian (media specialist). These amazing people have their thumb on what’s good and what kids are talking about. The public library also has amazing people who can point you in the right direction. It’s always a good idea to read some of the books he is reading so you can discuss them. Even certain periodicals are a good choice, because they don’t really feel like actual ‘reading’ to kids if they are interested in the subject matter. Excellent idea for summer. Enjoy.
My freshman daughter’s best friend moved away a couple of weeks ago, and she is absolutely devastated. She doesn’t make friends easily, so she has become withdrawn and just doesn’t seem to care about much — school included. Do you recommend taking her to see a licensed counselor?
For young teens this age, losing a friend to distance is just about equivalent to the end of the world. They don’t stop to consider the big picture and all the resources at their disposal. For instance, gone are the days of long distance charges for phone calls thanks to cell phones. Friends also can communicate through social media or email. You might reassure your daughter that the friend might be able to come visit during the summer. Her friend will enjoy having a pipeline to all the goings for which she is now missing.