The Moore American

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March 26, 2014

Child asks about options regarding dad’s behavior

MOORE — Q: I asked my dad several weeks ago if I could use his smartphone to look something up. When I typed in a couple of letters for my search, some sites popped up that have me concerned.

Now I have a feeling my dad is cheating on my mom, or at the least, he is looking at things on theInternet that he shouldn’t. I’m scared to say anything because I don’t want to be the cause of breaking up my family.

I’ve also noticed he spends a lot of time looking at things on his phone when he doesn’t know I am around. I don’t want to say anything to anyone at school, either. What do you think I should do?

— Name Withheld By Request

A: The first thing we want to make sure you understand is that regardless of what happens, you are not the cause of anything. If your dad is truly doing something he shouldn’t, then the blame is all his.

As we see it, you have several options:

1. You could keep going on as you have, pretending like nothing is wrong. It will continue to bother you as it is now, and at some point, perhaps when you are older, you will have to deal with it. Remember, ignoring a situation never makes it go away.

2. It’s always smart to go to the source. You could ask your dad about it — explaining that when you borrowed his phone, this is what you saw. If you use this option, you don’t want to sound like you are accusing him — only report the facts and only ask questions for which you are prepared to hear the answer. You need to be ready for him to get angry or deny that anything is going on, or both.

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