MOORE — Q: Now that our daughter has entered high school, it has become almost impossible to get her go to school. We have recently heard that some districts are offering incentives that might make it more appealing for kids to attend school, and now she thinks we should do the same for her. Any suggestions? Thanks for any help you can offer.
— Jazz and Doug, Moore
Dear Jazz and Doug,
We’d all like for our kids to jump up and be excited to go to school every day, but living in the real world, we know this doesn’t happen. We also know as good as it would be for the police to come and force them to attend, it only happens in certain cases and isn’t pleasant.
What does happen is that after multiple absences, your name as the parent or guardian is turned over to the DA. Heavy fines can be assessed, and even jail time is offered as an “incentive” for parents to get their kids to school.
We do not necessarily agree with some of the districts who give extravagant gifts if kids will only come to school. What is this teaching them? It is their job at this stage of their lives to attend school. The incentive we get, as adults who work and fulfill our responsibilities is a paycheck.
We have had students ask why they don’t get paid to go to school. We tell them to search online for average yearly incomes for those with no high school diploma or an associate’s, bachelor’s or master’s degree to see the difference in income. This can be eye-opening to a lot of young adults.
As you can tell, we believe her incentive should be a swift kick in the you-know-what. Not going to school isn’t an option. Remind her that you are the parent — she is the child — and should follow your rules. Not incurring your parental wrath is a huge incentive.